I love a good roller coaster–the ups and downs, twist and turns and loop de loops. A great roller coaster is unpredictable. It keeps you guessing about what’s coming next. One minute you are flying high, so high that you feel as if you could touch the clouds. The very next moment you are falling–floating with anxiousness–unaware of when and how it will all end. To me, a roller coaster is the best way to describe the healing journey. There are up days, down days and crazy whirlwind days, but through it all there is always the next day.
If you are in the midst of a healing process then you probably know exactly what I’m talking about. You are putting in the work and making progress, and then suddenly– out of the blue– you have a bad day, and that day is so bad that you feel like you haven’t made any progress at all. As a matter of fact you feel like you are right back where you started.
Has this ever happened to you?
It happens to me all the time, and I’m here to tell you that just because you’re stuck in this moment it doesn’t mean you’re going to fly off the roller coaster’s tracks.
Sure it’s going to get rough for a little bit, but learning to how to handle these moments without completely losing it is part of the process.
I want to share with you how to recognize the ups and downs of your healing journey, and how to weather the bad days, go with flow and get back to the main track.
Recognizing the Ups and Downs
Every day is an opportunity for gratitude. It is imperative that we are grateful for all of our days–good and bad. You are here for a reason, you matter and you are enough. Your purpose may not be apparent to you right now, but remember this–there is no one else in this entire world like you. Yes, you! You are uniquely, genuinely, one-of-a-kind my darling. Enjoy every day to the fullest and you will be much better prepared to go with the down days flow.
Learning to recognize a looming down day is different for everyone. First and foremost you must learn to listen to your body–you are the only person that can sense this. I can usually tell that I am headed for a bad day when my attitude starts to become slightly negative. How do you feel right before a down day? Remember this feeling and take note of it. Sometimes when you know the bad day is coming you feel more prepared to weather it.
Weathering the Bad Days
So it has happened, you are in the trenches of a down day and you are feeling all kinds of emotions. Here are some things to remember and help you through the day or days ahead.
1. Everything is going to be okay – Take a deep breath. You have been here before–you know what this feels like. Don’t get ahead of yourself and don’t look back. Be in this moment and try to understand the lesson that is in front of you. This too shall pass.
2. Write down your feelings – You may be feeling or experiencing things that you have yet to experience so far in your journey. Write it down. You can reflect on these feelings later.
3. Read or watch positive and inspiring books/movies – You are feeling vulnerable in this moment and your mind is open to many ideas. Fill your mind with positive and inspiring ideas. Read a good book or watch a good movie that will leave you feeling inspired and empowered. Avoid reading or watching anything that will make you feel even more down.
4. Go Outside – If you live close to nature, get out there. Nature has a way of grounding us and bringing us back to our center. You may feel restored and renewed after a walk through the trees or along the beach.
5. Exercise – There is no better stress reliever than exercise. A good heart pumping sweat filled workout will get your endorphins going and turn that bad day into a good one in no time. Remember, it doesn’t have to be intense to work. Just get your body moving and you will start to feel better.
Go With The Flow
Learning to go with the flow is probably one of the most difficult challenges for me. This is purely mind over matter and relies on your ability to trust the process and know that everything is in divine order. If you can master this you can overcome any down day that comes your way.
This process may take you out of your comfort zone, but you can’t live in there forever. Try going with the flow on your good days first. Release control of small situations and just let life happen. I know, I know, but it will be okay. Start slow and work your way into bigger challenges. Here is a good starter challenge for you. For one day, don’t plan anything. Just let things happen naturally. Yes you can do this.
Know When to Ask for Help
Sometimes the bad days can be more than you can handle, and that is okay. If you need help, ask for it. Call a friend, a family member or a professional if you need to. Knowing when to ask for help and then actually asking for it is an important part of your healing journey. It’s okay to say, “I’m not okay.” Own that moment and release the fear of allowing yourself to receive help and be healed.
Get Back to the Main Track
You aren’t off track, just on a little detour. I used to dread the bad days, but now I see them as opportunities to learn and grow from whatever my body needs at that moment. Perhaps you weren’t ready to face something before but you’re ready now. That is what these bad days are all about. Every time I have a bad day I usually have an epiphany that accompanies it–or a “aha” moment that brings me back to the main track with more hope and determination than ever.
Try to see the beauty in the entire journey–good and bad. The good days are great, but the bad days are the real lesson. Ask yourself, what do I need to learn from this? Then, pick yourself up and keep moving forward.
There will be good days and there will be bad days, and through it all there will be tomorrow.
Peace, Love & Wellness