It’s true whether you want to admit it or not. They have most likely seen you in your barest form and it’s not exactly what you think. Some people may call it spying, but truthfully it’s just human nature. We love to people watch, and believe it or not, your neighbors are watching you–just as you are watching them.
Let me back up for a minute here. I want to explain what I mean by naked. Of course there is the bare bottom, letting it all hang out topless variety of naked, but that’s not the naked I am referring to. When I say naked what I really mean is vulnerable. Why didn’t I just say vulnerable? Well, in my opinion, when you are truly 100% vulnerable it’s like being naked. People can see down to the barest form of who you are, and this is easily exposed when you don’t know that anyone is watching. Plus, it’s much more fun to talk about being naked instead of being vulnerable.
I know this has a creepy factor to it, but think about it. Suburbia is built in a way that fences back up to fences and windows overlook yards. It would be foolish to think that your neighbor doesn’t peek through their window to see what’s going on when they hear music or laughter in your back yard. You probably do the same when you hear your neighbors throwing a party. We can’t help it because we are by nature curious beings.
As years pass, our neighbors may feel as if they have a sense of who we are based on the things they have seen us do. They may have seen you come home with your new baby, a truly vulnerable and naked moment. They may have seen you tearful and inconsolable after putting a beloved pet to sleep. They may have seen the graduation celebration and countless birthday parties you have hosted. They have watched you and your children grow old, and have had many glimpses of all the vulnerable moments in between. They see you naked more than you even realize.
Is there anything you can do about this? Probably not–unless you move to the country where you are miles away from anyone. Otherwise, you are pretty much stuck with the watchful eyes of your neighbors. I don’t necessarily see this as a bad thing. Is the realization that they have probably seen you naked so shocking? After all, it’s in these moments that we can see a person’s true character. How many times has a video gone viral of a random act of kindness? The people performing those random acts are completely naked. They are exposing their barest emotional form without knowing that someone is watching them.
That leaves us with some food for thought. If to be human is to be vulnerable, then we are more than likely always exposing ourselves in some way. So, always try to be the best version of yourself, because you never know who is watching–or these days–recording your every move. Consider this–the moment you leave your home you are naked–no doubt about it. So be beautifully, authentically, I don’t care who is watching naked. Be naked for your neighbors, the barista at Starbucks, the clerk at the grocery store and all the people you work with. Be the best damn naked person you can be!